diff --git a/drivers/nvme/host/rdma.c b/drivers/nvme/host/rdma.c
index 5a83881..3d25add 100644
--- a/drivers/nvme/host/rdma.c
+++ b/drivers/nvme/host/rdma.c
@@ -83,6 +83,7 @@ enum nvme_rdma_queue_flags {
 	NVME_RDMA_Q_CONNECTED = (1 << 0),
 	NVME_RDMA_IB_QUEUE_ALLOCATED = (1 << 1),
 	NVME_RDMA_Q_DELETING = (1 << 2),
+	NVME_RDMA_Q_LIVE = (1 << 3),
 };
 
 struct nvme_rdma_queue {
@@ -624,10 +625,18 @@ static int nvme_rdma_connect_io_queues(struct nvme_rdma_ctrl *ctrl)
 
 	for (i = 1; i < ctrl->queue_count; i++) {
 		ret = nvmf_connect_io_queue(&ctrl->ctrl, i);
-		if (ret)
-			break;
+		if (ret) {
+			dev_info(ctrl->ctrl.device,
+				"failed to connect i/o queue: %d\n", ret);
+			goto out_free_queues;
+		}
+		set_bit(NVME_RDMA_Q_LIVE, &ctrl->queues[i].flags);
 	}
 
+	return 0;
+
+out_free_queues:
+	nvme_rdma_free_io_queues(ctrl);
 	return ret;
 }
 
@@ -712,6 +721,8 @@ static void nvme_rdma_reconnect_ctrl_work(struct work_struct *work)
 	if (ret)
 		goto stop_admin_q;
 
+	set_bit(NVME_RDMA_Q_LIVE, &ctrl->queues[0].flags);
+
 	ret = nvme_enable_ctrl(&ctrl->ctrl, ctrl->cap);
 	if (ret)
 		goto stop_admin_q;
@@ -761,8 +772,10 @@ static void nvme_rdma_error_recovery_work(struct work_struct *work)
 
 	nvme_stop_keep_alive(&ctrl->ctrl);
 
-	for (i = 0; i < ctrl->queue_count; i++)
+	for (i = 0; i < ctrl->queue_count; i++) {
 		clear_bit(NVME_RDMA_Q_CONNECTED, &ctrl->queues[i].flags);
+		clear_bit(NVME_RDMA_Q_LIVE, &ctrl->queues[i].flags);
+	}
 
 	if (ctrl->queue_count > 1)
 		nvme_stop_queues(&ctrl->ctrl);
@@ -1378,6 +1391,24 @@ nvme_rdma_timeout(struct request *rq, bool reserved)
 	return BLK_EH_HANDLED;
 }
 
+/*
+ * We cannot accept any other command until the Connect command has completed.
+ */
+static inline bool nvme_rdma_queue_is_ready(struct nvme_rdma_queue *queue,
+		struct request *rq)
+{
+	if (unlikely(!test_bit(NVME_RDMA_Q_LIVE, &queue->flags))) {
+		struct nvme_command *cmd = (struct nvme_command *)rq->cmd;
+
+		if (rq->cmd_type != REQ_TYPE_DRV_PRIV ||
+		    cmd->common.opcode != nvme_fabrics_command ||
+		    cmd->fabrics.fctype != nvme_fabrics_type_connect)
+			return false;
+	}
+
+	return true;
+}
+
 static int nvme_rdma_queue_rq(struct blk_mq_hw_ctx *hctx,
 		const struct blk_mq_queue_data *bd)
 {
@@ -1394,6 +1425,9 @@ static int nvme_rdma_queue_rq(struct blk_mq_hw_ctx *hctx,
 
 	WARN_ON_ONCE(rq->tag < 0);
 
+	if (!nvme_rdma_queue_is_ready(queue, rq))
+		return BLK_MQ_RQ_QUEUE_BUSY;
+
 	dev = queue->device->dev;
 	ib_dma_sync_single_for_cpu(dev, sqe->dma,
 			sizeof(struct nvme_command), DMA_TO_DEVICE);
@@ -1544,6 +1578,8 @@ static int nvme_rdma_configure_admin_queue(struct nvme_rdma_ctrl *ctrl)
 	if (error)
 		goto out_cleanup_queue;
 
+	set_bit(NVME_RDMA_Q_LIVE, &ctrl->queues[0].flags);
+
 	error = nvmf_reg_read64(&ctrl->ctrl, NVME_REG_CAP, &ctrl->cap);
 	if (error) {
 		dev_err(ctrl->ctrl.device,
diff --git a/drivers/nvme/target/core.c b/drivers/nvme/target/core.c
index b4cacb6..a21437a 100644
--- a/drivers/nvme/target/core.c
+++ b/drivers/nvme/target/core.c
@@ -838,9 +838,13 @@ static void nvmet_fatal_error_handler(struct work_struct *work)
 
 void nvmet_ctrl_fatal_error(struct nvmet_ctrl *ctrl)
 {
-	ctrl->csts |= NVME_CSTS_CFS;
-	INIT_WORK(&ctrl->fatal_err_work, nvmet_fatal_error_handler);
-	schedule_work(&ctrl->fatal_err_work);
+	mutex_lock(&ctrl->lock);
+	if (!(ctrl->csts & NVME_CSTS_CFS)) {
+		ctrl->csts |= NVME_CSTS_CFS;
+		INIT_WORK(&ctrl->fatal_err_work, nvmet_fatal_error_handler);
+		schedule_work(&ctrl->fatal_err_work);
+	}
+	mutex_unlock(&ctrl->lock);
 }
 EXPORT_SYMBOL_GPL(nvmet_ctrl_fatal_error);
 
diff --git a/drivers/nvme/target/rdma.c b/drivers/nvme/target/rdma.c
index f8d2399..005ef5d 100644
--- a/drivers/nvme/target/rdma.c
+++ b/drivers/nvme/target/rdma.c
@@ -951,6 +951,7 @@ static int nvmet_rdma_create_queue_ib(struct nvmet_rdma_queue *queue)
 
 static void nvmet_rdma_destroy_queue_ib(struct nvmet_rdma_queue *queue)
 {
+	ib_drain_qp(queue->cm_id->qp);
 	rdma_destroy_qp(queue->cm_id);
 	ib_free_cq(queue->cq);
 }
@@ -1066,6 +1067,7 @@ nvmet_rdma_alloc_queue(struct nvmet_rdma_device *ndev,
 	spin_lock_init(&queue->rsp_wr_wait_lock);
 	INIT_LIST_HEAD(&queue->free_rsps);
 	spin_lock_init(&queue->rsps_lock);
+	INIT_LIST_HEAD(&queue->queue_list);
 
 	queue->idx = ida_simple_get(&nvmet_rdma_queue_ida, 0, 0, GFP_KERNEL);
 	if (queue->idx < 0) {
@@ -1244,7 +1246,6 @@ static void __nvmet_rdma_queue_disconnect(struct nvmet_rdma_queue *queue)
 
 	if (disconnect) {
 		rdma_disconnect(queue->cm_id);
-		ib_drain_qp(queue->cm_id->qp);
 		schedule_work(&queue->release_work);
 	}
 }
@@ -1269,7 +1270,12 @@ static void nvmet_rdma_queue_connect_fail(struct rdma_cm_id *cm_id,
 {
 	WARN_ON_ONCE(queue->state != NVMET_RDMA_Q_CONNECTING);
 
-	pr_err("failed to connect queue\n");
+	mutex_lock(&nvmet_rdma_queue_mutex);
+	if (!list_empty(&queue->queue_list))
+		list_del_init(&queue->queue_list);
+	mutex_unlock(&nvmet_rdma_queue_mutex);
+
+	pr_err("failed to connect queue %d\n", queue->idx);
 	schedule_work(&queue->release_work);
 }
 
@@ -1352,7 +1358,13 @@ static int nvmet_rdma_cm_handler(struct rdma_cm_id *cm_id,
 	case RDMA_CM_EVENT_ADDR_CHANGE:
 	case RDMA_CM_EVENT_DISCONNECTED:
 	case RDMA_CM_EVENT_TIMEWAIT_EXIT:
-		nvmet_rdma_queue_disconnect(queue);
+		/*
+		 * We might end up here when we already freed the qp
+		 * which means queue release sequence is in progress,
+		 * so don't get in the way...
+		 */
+		if (queue)
+			nvmet_rdma_queue_disconnect(queue);
 		break;
 	case RDMA_CM_EVENT_DEVICE_REMOVAL:
 		ret = nvmet_rdma_device_removal(cm_id, queue);